Becoming a mother doesn’t come with a handbook. There are many social stigmas out there about what you should, and should not do as a mother. Don’t get caught up in the ‘Mommy shaming’. You will find out your own DOs and DON’Ts along the way.
Here are 4 ‘Mommy Myths’ that I have already busted in my 3 short years of being a mother.
1. Your “motherly instinct” will take over.
WRONG! I’ll be honest. I have no idea what I’m doing. I’m winging it here people. There are still days where I can’t tell you what she is saying, or what she wants, and my child is 3. Being a Mommy is hard work, and you are constantly learning about your child. It’s crazy to think you’re just supposed to know what to do when you accidentally cut your kids fingertip off while trimming their nails. 🤷🏼♀️ (It happens, she was fine!)
2. Mom knows best, and everything!
This is shocking, I know! Who else knows everything, but Mom!? I’ll let you in on a little secret, Mom doesn’t know everything. 😱
We pretend to—and when we don’t know, we lie. I’m not saying we lie to our kids to wrong them—it’s mainly because we don’t know ourselves OR it will take way too much time to answer with all the WHYs to follow.
3. Enjoy every minute.
It’s ok to have moments of weakness. You’re human after all! With being a Mommy, there are so many twists and turns, there’s no way anyone could fully be prepared at all times. It is ok to NOT enjoy your toddlers’ 16th meltdown of the day. No one else around you is enjoying it either.
4. You should never have negative feelings about your children.
Speaking of the 16th meltdown of the day, how is it possible for someone to cry that much in one day? And how is anyone prepared to deal with that happily? These negative thoughts always cross my mind, especially on the worst days. It’s ok to have these thoughts. That doesn’t make you a bad mom! It makes you normal. Kids are stressful, and if you can’t have one thought to yourself you will lose your own sanity.
The bottom line is being a mom is unpredictable. There’s no way to know what to expect, so all of these rules and regulations don’t mean a thing. You’re doing a great job just being the mom that you are. Ask the real judge (your kids)— I promise their answer won’t let you down 😉