Last week I had my first annual 29th birthday. We all make jokes about getting older because it’s scary! We can’t stop time, and the older we get the more valuable our time becomes. We have set expectations for ourselves, and if we don’t meet those expectations by a certain age (i.e. 30), then what are we really doing with our lives?
“While getting older is inevitable, aging is optional.”
Despite what you may have heard, 30 is not old. I’ve been told by numerous people that the 30’s are some of the best years of your life. You’re in your prime! Truth be told, I have looked forward to this age range my entire life. Growing up, I always wanted to be older, and have my own freedom. Now that I’m actually at that stage in my life, I realize it’s not everything I dreamed it would be.
There were many things I enjoyed when I was younger that I can’t say the same for now. Amusement park attractions were one of these things. This summer I took my daughter to the fair, and she asked me to ride with her on the spinning teacups. No problem! I’ve ridden on a million rollercoasters. Two minutes later I’m asking to stop the ride, and for a barf bag. That ride reminded me a lot of my journey as a mother so far, delirious.
Becoming a mother and wife is eye-opening. There truly isn’t anything that can prepare you. It’s just something you have to go through, and figure out on your own. Five short years ago, I was single and working in downtown Nashville, TN. Now I am a stay-at-home mother and wife, living in my small hometown. My life has changed drastically in half of a decade. With all of these changes, it’s easy to get caught up in your age. Raising a child(ren) is a lot of work, and it’s hard to find time to take for yourself. ME time is something that everyone needs. These days may be few, and far between, but are the most important for your soul.
This year, I spent the majority of my 29th birthday alone. My husband was working, and my daughter was with my mother, so I had the whole day to myself! I went shopping, got my nails done, and had lunch alone. I honestly don’t think I could have asked for anything better. The peace and quiet, and ME time was just what I needed. I had time to sit and reflect, which got me thinking about my age. Next year I will be 30— it doesn’t seem real! I definitely don’t feel nearly 30. Some days I’m still stuck in limbo of being of adult age, but not wanting ALL of the responsibilities. If you had told me at age 20 that I would be a SAHM and wife before I turned 30, I would have laughed in your face. I’m nowhere near where I thought I would be at this point in life, but that’s okay. I wouldn’t take it back for anything; success is perspective.
A common motto for my generation is YOLO (You Only Live Once). Despite how ridiculous it may sound, it’s true. No matter your age, you only have one shot at life–so make the most of it! Your life is just that, YOUR life. Live it to the fullest at any and every age! BUT just in case you ever need any reassurance on your actual age, just take your kid to the fair and ride the spinning teacups. You will quickly be reminded.