Fresh out of college, I moved to the big city of Nashville, TN to pursue my career. I have a Bachelor’s Degree in Public Relations and minored in Marketing, so I was excited to start my journey. I landed a receptionist position at an air filter company right away, and the goal was to work my way up in the company. One unplanned pregnancy later, I found myself back in my hometown about to give birth and raise my first child.
I never planned to be a stay-at-home-mom, but it was what worked best for our family, so I willingly took on that role. Now here I still am nearly five years later. I’ve been working multiple part-time and temporary jobs, but nothing has stuck. I’m ready to start my career, but just can’t seem to get one.
This year I have applied to so many places. I usually don’t hear back. However, I have had a few interviews, but have never gotten the job for whatever reason. This may be because I’m overqualified for the starter jobs, or still don’t have enough “experience” for the jobs in which I’m deemed qualified.
Not complaining, just what I’ve noticed over the past 5 years. It’s either work or family, and seems nearly impossible to have and balance both. Sometimes I feel like I’m being punished for deciding to become a SAHM. I know I missed out on the time and work experience, but there’s nothing like those baby snuggles and watching your child learn and grow.
So here I am stuck in limbo- a transition period if you will. My daughter and husband have separate set schedules, and I just kind of float to where I’m needed, and try to make time for myself in-between. How can I fully commit to a 9-5 job, especially if that job is in a different city, when my daughter has to be picked up by 4PM on 3 of those days? Daycare is expensive enough without having to rely on and pay another person to pick her up each day.
That’s where I just don’t get it. Nothing against teachers, but I was not prepared. I was told go to college, you’ll get a better job. Wrong! There is nothing wrong with trade jobs. You may start from the bottom, but eventually everyone has to do that too. My husband, who doesn’t have a degree yet, makes more now than I probably ever will!
For now I am substitute teaching, and I couldn’t be more thankful for that. Even though teaching is not my field of choice, I get to make my own schedule, and be flexible for my family. There is not much in my field in this area, but my husband has a great job with amazing benefits, and family is close. So I have to make do with what I’ve got.
I know there is a plan for me, and I will find something eventually that works for both me and my family. I’ve just been out of the game so long; it’s hard to get back in. I’m sitting on the edge of the bench, anxiously awaiting my turn. I know when I’m told to get back in the game then it’ll be my time to shine!